If you see me
on the street
just pretend
I am a stranger
If someone asks
tell everyone
I just boarded
the next train home
In those photos
you can say
it wasn't really me
I was just a merchant
In all honesty
I quite willingly
sold what I had
for the lowest price
IT'S HURRICANE SEASON...
Monday, December 21, 2009
Friday, December 11, 2009
The Girl Who Had No Home
You scaled the world deprived of armor
When they knocked, no one was home
Greeted by a phantasm, the collective myth
What the world creates, it can destroy
And now, at last, may you rise
For my dear MM, 1926 - 1962. RIP, Norma Jeane.
When they knocked, no one was home
Greeted by a phantasm, the collective myth
What the world creates, it can destroy
And now, at last, may you rise
For my dear MM, 1926 - 1962. RIP, Norma Jeane.
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
31 Things I've Learned in 31 Years
Thursday is my thirty-first birthday, so I decided to try to come up with thirty-one things I’ve learned. Here goes:
1) There is no such thing as closure.
2) It’s okay to judge. The problem is when you can’t admit to yourself that your judgments are often wrong.
3) It really is worth it to buy expensive shoes.
4) Hindsight is never 20/20.
5) There’s a difference between excuses and explanations. However, most people (myself included) don’t really seem to understand what the difference is.
6) I was infinitely smarter at age five than I am now.
7) There is a direct correlation between popped collars and douchebags.
8) After years of rumination, I have decided that what separates happy from unhappy people is gratitude.
9) I don’t believe that no one is perfect, because of Audrey Hepburn.
10) It’s fine to cry on the subway. It helps a lot that I own a pair of oversized sunglasses.
11) It’s usually better to forgive.
12) It’s even more important to forgive yourself. I’m pretty sure that this, for me, will be a lifelong endeavor.
13) Sometimes it’s okay to give up. In fact, sometimes you really just have to.
14) Being able to laugh at myself has helped me with numbers 12 and 13.
15) As cliche as it is, the truth really is stranger than fiction.
16) When things really suck, I don’t take it day by day. I take it footstep by footstep.
17) Nothing is free, not even trouble.
18) People really can change. It’s just that it’s the hardest thing in the world to do.
19) Moderation really isn’t much fun.
20) I need to constantly remind myself to keep my eyes open. It always surprises me how much more I can see.
21) Having roommates is really tough. That being said, it has taught me a hell of a lot about myself.
22) Everyone is a hypocrite about something. Since I freely admit my own hypocrisy, I really think that should count as some sort of absolution.
23) I’ll never trust someone who doesn’t curse. Same goes for someone who doesn’t drink coffee.
24) Traveling alone is one of the best things I’ve ever done.
25) Being told I have an old soul was the best compliment I’ve ever received, though I’m not sure it was intended that way.
26) As I get older, time for me is not so much a continuum but instead a series of moments. I call it the Fragmentation of Age. I probably stole that line from someone inadvertently, but I think I titled it myself.
27) When you can’t figure out the clue to a crossword puzzle, the best thing to do is put it aside and look at it again later.
28) Crossword puzzles have taught me a lot about life.
29) Should really is the most useless word in the English language.
30) For this one I have to quote David Sedaris, one of my favorite authors, because he put it better than I ever could have: “People are not so much foolish as they are kind.”
31) Even though she has been gone for over five years, my mother is, and always will be, my best friend.
1) There is no such thing as closure.
2) It’s okay to judge. The problem is when you can’t admit to yourself that your judgments are often wrong.
3) It really is worth it to buy expensive shoes.
4) Hindsight is never 20/20.
5) There’s a difference between excuses and explanations. However, most people (myself included) don’t really seem to understand what the difference is.
6) I was infinitely smarter at age five than I am now.
7) There is a direct correlation between popped collars and douchebags.
8) After years of rumination, I have decided that what separates happy from unhappy people is gratitude.
9) I don’t believe that no one is perfect, because of Audrey Hepburn.
10) It’s fine to cry on the subway. It helps a lot that I own a pair of oversized sunglasses.
11) It’s usually better to forgive.
12) It’s even more important to forgive yourself. I’m pretty sure that this, for me, will be a lifelong endeavor.
13) Sometimes it’s okay to give up. In fact, sometimes you really just have to.
14) Being able to laugh at myself has helped me with numbers 12 and 13.
15) As cliche as it is, the truth really is stranger than fiction.
16) When things really suck, I don’t take it day by day. I take it footstep by footstep.
17) Nothing is free, not even trouble.
18) People really can change. It’s just that it’s the hardest thing in the world to do.
19) Moderation really isn’t much fun.
20) I need to constantly remind myself to keep my eyes open. It always surprises me how much more I can see.
21) Having roommates is really tough. That being said, it has taught me a hell of a lot about myself.
22) Everyone is a hypocrite about something. Since I freely admit my own hypocrisy, I really think that should count as some sort of absolution.
23) I’ll never trust someone who doesn’t curse. Same goes for someone who doesn’t drink coffee.
24) Traveling alone is one of the best things I’ve ever done.
25) Being told I have an old soul was the best compliment I’ve ever received, though I’m not sure it was intended that way.
26) As I get older, time for me is not so much a continuum but instead a series of moments. I call it the Fragmentation of Age. I probably stole that line from someone inadvertently, but I think I titled it myself.
27) When you can’t figure out the clue to a crossword puzzle, the best thing to do is put it aside and look at it again later.
28) Crossword puzzles have taught me a lot about life.
29) Should really is the most useless word in the English language.
30) For this one I have to quote David Sedaris, one of my favorite authors, because he put it better than I ever could have: “People are not so much foolish as they are kind.”
31) Even though she has been gone for over five years, my mother is, and always will be, my best friend.
Monday, September 21, 2009
Noble Strength
Your eyes aflame
yet I'm quite sure
they are abrim
with drops of rain
You glide atop
gossamer clouds
limbs too fragile
for solid earth
No one can hold
a golden nymph
your secrets will
remain unseen
Moonlight lady
won't you return
spirit unveiled
just one more time
For AH
yet I'm quite sure
they are abrim
with drops of rain
You glide atop
gossamer clouds
limbs too fragile
for solid earth
No one can hold
a golden nymph
your secrets will
remain unseen
Moonlight lady
won't you return
spirit unveiled
just one more time
For AH
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Wherever You're Going
Five and a half years today. At a certain point it seems meaningless to mark these anniversaries in days, weeks, numbers, and years. But there it is, and somehow you find it impossible to erase.
Is there a point, anymore, in recounting the past? I could talk about the morning of April 17th, at 6 a.m., the jangle of the phone that stirred me from me restless, sporadic night of sleep. I could say that I knew what it was, as people with loved ones who are terminally ill can sense, the second I heard that ring. “Ms. Gluck, this is the hospital. We’re sorry to tell you that your mother passed away last night.” I could recount my sister running into the room, screaming. I couldn’t hug her, I couldn’t cry, all I could say was “it’s done.” I could wonder and try to understand why I used those words now to tell my nineteen year old sister that her mother was gone. Words that, in retrospect, seem so cold and detached. Or I could make up some elaborate metaphor - my life, as I had known it, was done. Maybe that’s what I had meant. I could pretend it would matter somehow, that it made some sort of difference. But the story ends the same way, regardless of the fiction we create to make it more forceful, more dramatic, more palatable, more relatable. And so it goes.
I could describe the minutes, hours, days, weeks, and months that followed. What I read at her funeral, what I wore, the people who came and those who didn’t. The way we buried her, with a card I had sent her just weeks earlier telling her about the trip we would finally take to Italy when she turned sixty - when her health was better, when she was strong enough to walk around and I was stable enough to bring her back to her favorite place in the world. I could recount what it felt like to return to D.C., where I was in law school, and to see the looks on the faces of my classmates as they tried to say they were sorry. One girl just hugged me. She seemed to know, instinctively, that words were pointless. I won’t ever forget the way she hugged me, and the look on her face, even though I have long since forgotten her name.
If anyone wanted to listen, I could try to explain what it felt like to walk around with legs of rubber, just a floating torso, wandering the streets of Washington aimlessly, not seeing what was around me and just knowing I had to keep moving. Maybe someone would understand what it felt like to be an alien - I was no longer anyone’s daughter. Adrift, but the strange thing was that the ocean around me was calm - people went about their business, commuted to work, went shopping, studied for exams, got drunk at happy hours. Their world was unchanged. They would never know about this thing that had happened.
I might be able to remember in bits and pieces what I said to people, what they said back to me. The fights with my sister, the crazy shopping sprees I went on, plunging into deeper and deeper debt. She channeled her grief in a positive way. Me, well I was simply obliterated. I could describe the relationship I got involved in six weeks later, the most serious and painful relationship of my life. One from which I am still not sure I have completely recovered.
I could show you the pictures of Venice, the trip I took with my boyfriend at the time, the trip I was supposed to take with my mother. Instead I went ten months after her death, telling myself I was going in her memory. I could recount the fact that I didn’t cry until I was about to board the train back to Rome, because I realized then, staring at the hoards of pigeons, that she wasn’t there. That the trip had not been about paying tribute to her, but instead an attempt to find her. The hope that somehow, in the mist and bridges and decaying buildings, I might see her as she had been, before the sickness that waged its war of attrition on her organs and she began to disappear little by little.
I could admit that part of me has been searching for her ever since her death. I search for her in friends, in boyfriends, in places, in things. I could talk about my ritual of going through my cell phone address book, searching anxiously through every number, realizing each time that there really isn’t anyone to call. I could say that it hurts just the same each time.
I could explain how time hasn’t healed wounds, it has simply forced me to forge a new life. A body with an alien limb. I’m convinced I can still feel it, even though it’s no longer there.
You might ask me what I will do in the meantime. If it’s a good day, I could tell you that I will try to live a life that does justice to her memory. That I know, eventually, I will find something to grasp onto. That I will make some sense of it and make peace with it and with myself.
Instead, I would probably tell you about Moon River. That it was her favorite song. The idealistic, naive part of me hopes that she is there now, floating off to see the world. I could tell you that I believe that maybe she’s just on the opposite bank now, with her huckleberry friend. That maybe one day, when I stop drifting, I’ll get there myself.
For Marilyn Gluck, 1948 - 2004
Is there a point, anymore, in recounting the past? I could talk about the morning of April 17th, at 6 a.m., the jangle of the phone that stirred me from me restless, sporadic night of sleep. I could say that I knew what it was, as people with loved ones who are terminally ill can sense, the second I heard that ring. “Ms. Gluck, this is the hospital. We’re sorry to tell you that your mother passed away last night.” I could recount my sister running into the room, screaming. I couldn’t hug her, I couldn’t cry, all I could say was “it’s done.” I could wonder and try to understand why I used those words now to tell my nineteen year old sister that her mother was gone. Words that, in retrospect, seem so cold and detached. Or I could make up some elaborate metaphor - my life, as I had known it, was done. Maybe that’s what I had meant. I could pretend it would matter somehow, that it made some sort of difference. But the story ends the same way, regardless of the fiction we create to make it more forceful, more dramatic, more palatable, more relatable. And so it goes.
I could describe the minutes, hours, days, weeks, and months that followed. What I read at her funeral, what I wore, the people who came and those who didn’t. The way we buried her, with a card I had sent her just weeks earlier telling her about the trip we would finally take to Italy when she turned sixty - when her health was better, when she was strong enough to walk around and I was stable enough to bring her back to her favorite place in the world. I could recount what it felt like to return to D.C., where I was in law school, and to see the looks on the faces of my classmates as they tried to say they were sorry. One girl just hugged me. She seemed to know, instinctively, that words were pointless. I won’t ever forget the way she hugged me, and the look on her face, even though I have long since forgotten her name.
If anyone wanted to listen, I could try to explain what it felt like to walk around with legs of rubber, just a floating torso, wandering the streets of Washington aimlessly, not seeing what was around me and just knowing I had to keep moving. Maybe someone would understand what it felt like to be an alien - I was no longer anyone’s daughter. Adrift, but the strange thing was that the ocean around me was calm - people went about their business, commuted to work, went shopping, studied for exams, got drunk at happy hours. Their world was unchanged. They would never know about this thing that had happened.
I might be able to remember in bits and pieces what I said to people, what they said back to me. The fights with my sister, the crazy shopping sprees I went on, plunging into deeper and deeper debt. She channeled her grief in a positive way. Me, well I was simply obliterated. I could describe the relationship I got involved in six weeks later, the most serious and painful relationship of my life. One from which I am still not sure I have completely recovered.
I could show you the pictures of Venice, the trip I took with my boyfriend at the time, the trip I was supposed to take with my mother. Instead I went ten months after her death, telling myself I was going in her memory. I could recount the fact that I didn’t cry until I was about to board the train back to Rome, because I realized then, staring at the hoards of pigeons, that she wasn’t there. That the trip had not been about paying tribute to her, but instead an attempt to find her. The hope that somehow, in the mist and bridges and decaying buildings, I might see her as she had been, before the sickness that waged its war of attrition on her organs and she began to disappear little by little.
I could admit that part of me has been searching for her ever since her death. I search for her in friends, in boyfriends, in places, in things. I could talk about my ritual of going through my cell phone address book, searching anxiously through every number, realizing each time that there really isn’t anyone to call. I could say that it hurts just the same each time.
I could explain how time hasn’t healed wounds, it has simply forced me to forge a new life. A body with an alien limb. I’m convinced I can still feel it, even though it’s no longer there.
You might ask me what I will do in the meantime. If it’s a good day, I could tell you that I will try to live a life that does justice to her memory. That I know, eventually, I will find something to grasp onto. That I will make some sense of it and make peace with it and with myself.
Instead, I would probably tell you about Moon River. That it was her favorite song. The idealistic, naive part of me hopes that she is there now, floating off to see the world. I could tell you that I believe that maybe she’s just on the opposite bank now, with her huckleberry friend. That maybe one day, when I stop drifting, I’ll get there myself.
For Marilyn Gluck, 1948 - 2004
Thursday, June 18, 2009
Song #41
I have three lines under my right eye. Creases. Folds. The first sign of the elastin - or is it collagen? - in my skin that is breaking down. This morning as I stood in the mirror I tugged at the side of my face with my middle finger, lifting the skin, so I could envision what I must have looked like before the lines appeared. What would it take to erase them? A facelift? Some botox? Injections? Lasers? I’m not sure what the appropriate procedure would cost, but I’m fairly certain I wouldn’t be able to afford it anyway.
Some of my friends are amused with my obsession with these three unforgiving lines, some will empathize, some are critical of what they think is purely vanity. But when I really think about it, while vanity surely plays a part, it’s insufficient to explain why I find this trio of folds so troublesome. Is it fear of getting old? Of impending death, getting closer with each subsequent crease? The truth is, every time I look in the mirror, they remind me that I’m losing time. Instead of a narrative on how much I have been through and survived, they serve as a painful reminder of everything I haven’t done. I’m almost thirty-one, and I didn’t expect to be here, now, like this. This wasn’t the plan. Somehow, I have veered inexplicably off course and ended up somewhere I don’t want to ever recognize.
This morning as I rode the train I listened to Dave Matthews’ Song #41, which I used to play constantly in college. I would lay on my blue and white flowered comforter, stare at the chipped white paint on the ceiling of my run - down off-campus apartment, and imagine all of the things I would do once I got out of Philadelphia and the confines of a campus that had begun to feel more and more like a trap. What had I hoped for then? To travel across Europe? To graduate at the top of my class from a top law school and make millions at a firm? To join the Peace Corps and live out my own little version of saving the world? I really haven’t a clue anymore. What I can remember quite clearly is hating how round my face was in pictures. "Don’t worry," my mother explained, "it will thin out with age." I’m at a loss to explain why that was of any comfort to me.
When I got off the subway and stepped into the sheets of morning rain, I pulled out my cell phone. My younger sister, as usual, didn’t answer. What to say to her on voicemail? What words could I use to explain? "Hillary," I mumbled, "you’re doing great. Appreciate it. Because one day...well...I think...you will wish you did." Not very eloquent, but an attempt, however feeble.
My sister rarely checks her messages. Usually, she just deletes them.
The other night I ordered Chinese food. I opened up the fortune cookie, which said "True happiness comes from being at peace with yourself." And it occurred to me that life is not so much sad as poignant.
Some of my friends are amused with my obsession with these three unforgiving lines, some will empathize, some are critical of what they think is purely vanity. But when I really think about it, while vanity surely plays a part, it’s insufficient to explain why I find this trio of folds so troublesome. Is it fear of getting old? Of impending death, getting closer with each subsequent crease? The truth is, every time I look in the mirror, they remind me that I’m losing time. Instead of a narrative on how much I have been through and survived, they serve as a painful reminder of everything I haven’t done. I’m almost thirty-one, and I didn’t expect to be here, now, like this. This wasn’t the plan. Somehow, I have veered inexplicably off course and ended up somewhere I don’t want to ever recognize.
This morning as I rode the train I listened to Dave Matthews’ Song #41, which I used to play constantly in college. I would lay on my blue and white flowered comforter, stare at the chipped white paint on the ceiling of my run - down off-campus apartment, and imagine all of the things I would do once I got out of Philadelphia and the confines of a campus that had begun to feel more and more like a trap. What had I hoped for then? To travel across Europe? To graduate at the top of my class from a top law school and make millions at a firm? To join the Peace Corps and live out my own little version of saving the world? I really haven’t a clue anymore. What I can remember quite clearly is hating how round my face was in pictures. "Don’t worry," my mother explained, "it will thin out with age." I’m at a loss to explain why that was of any comfort to me.
When I got off the subway and stepped into the sheets of morning rain, I pulled out my cell phone. My younger sister, as usual, didn’t answer. What to say to her on voicemail? What words could I use to explain? "Hillary," I mumbled, "you’re doing great. Appreciate it. Because one day...well...I think...you will wish you did." Not very eloquent, but an attempt, however feeble.
My sister rarely checks her messages. Usually, she just deletes them.
The other night I ordered Chinese food. I opened up the fortune cookie, which said "True happiness comes from being at peace with yourself." And it occurred to me that life is not so much sad as poignant.
Sunday, March 29, 2009
Cumulus
The clouds try to tempt me
Come, dance with the sky
The perspective, incomparable
You may as well try
It's clear and it's silent
No howl and no groan
It's what you have wanted
You won't be alone
No shivering from cold
You'll have our embrace
Finally stop running
Of the dark, not a trace
I want to go with them
No more bags to pack
I won't have to remember
What it is that I lack
Why not, this sweet journey
And what I could see!
But the morning awaits me
So no, it can't be
Come, dance with the sky
The perspective, incomparable
You may as well try
It's clear and it's silent
No howl and no groan
It's what you have wanted
You won't be alone
No shivering from cold
You'll have our embrace
Finally stop running
Of the dark, not a trace
I want to go with them
No more bags to pack
I won't have to remember
What it is that I lack
Why not, this sweet journey
And what I could see!
But the morning awaits me
So no, it can't be
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Monday, February 9, 2009
Hope
Some say she went
Where it never rains
And there lingers
Some say they see her
In the glint of snow
Hapless victims
For Eneze
Where it never rains
And there lingers
Some say they see her
In the glint of snow
The howl of mourning
Some wonder when
The black will fade
Some wonder when
The black will fade
Bones so brittle
Some tried to cling
Engrossed in yearningSome tried to cling
Hapless victims
For Eneze
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